I am striving to be able to play past my mistakes
and pick up the song in the next measure. However, I also agree that when the song is going fast, I often end up making more mistakes and getting lost more easily. I have been able to pick up my speed a lot more recently, but I still have difficulties especially with tunes I have not practiced as much as others. I don't have much problem asking to slow down the songs, but I think I do have another related problem, which is that my tempo sometimes varies quite a bit and is influenced by those I play with, even though FM suggests that I should try to make myself immune to such inconsistencies. I always try to remember that the metronome is my friend.